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Sunday, April 26, 2015
Blessing or Cult?
Dear Ones,
The question has been asked about a certain group following a certain person's ideas and practices. The question is whether it is a beneficial energy transfer or a cult. The answer is, of course, it depends. It depends on who is interacting with this group and these ideas and this energy, because you will make of it what you will, according to your temperament, your choices, your intentions for this lifetime, the lessons you have chosen to pursue, your karma and of course your free will.
As with anything, you might ask yourself, "Why am I attracted to this? What am I hoping to gain?" Most people get in trouble trying to gain something for themselves rather than for others, and trying to get somewhere the easy way, without effort or doing the work. This is why people fall flat and why things will get harder for you when you walk in this expectant manner.
In this particular instance - although it extrapolates to all instances - many people have given much money to persons of this type in attempting to receive a transmission which will bring them to enlightenment (or so they say). It is of course a fine idea, that enlightenment can be bought and sold in this way. The appeal of having someone simply lay their hands upon you and give you what you seek? Well, that is as old as being born human and the craving for the perfect parental experience. Which nobody ever receives.
Do not mistake the longing for the possibility of eradicating the longing. Why would you think the path to enlightenment - which is after all the sense of freedom gained only through liberation from attachment to the human condition of desire - can be found in this way? It is kind of funny, if you think on it. It is really, as presented in this and many other places, just a big cookie to keep your sugar cravings intact. This is not to say that there is no energy transfer available. But nobody can guarantee what you make of it. Every human (and many other beings on this planet and in fact far beyond) gives of energy and shares it with others. You can give someone a bad day just by looking at them in a certain manner, you know this, correct? You can make someone's day better with a simple smile. (So, why wouldn't you? The question is begged.)
So we would say, if you go looking for personal salvation - perhaps you are trying to escape this place, or the pain and suffering inherent in the human condition, and who can blame you? - if you go looking at any price for something you want so badly in this way, then a blast of energy could expose you to yourself and it might not be easy to handle or beautiful to see. It might make you crazy for a while, or depressed, or feel lost even more than you were. But it also could give you a jolt and you might feel a sort of hopefulness for a while, that there is some way for you to walk out of here on a cloud.
Maybe it would be useful to reflect for a while on what it is you came here to do, and whether or not your mission, as it were, is served most properly in the hoping for someone to touch you into enlightenment? Perhaps - and we speculate here - your work here is to do the very hard thing of being present with yourself and with others, in as loving a manner as you possibly can muster, which, granted, will not seem like much at some times. And perhaps in this way you will find that to crave is to feel sickness and to generate goodwill for yourself and all beings is truly the work at hand. (How many people wish for enlightenment without being truly willing to just love themselves as they are? How is that supposed to work?) And perhaps you will find that to look elsewhere is beside the point, and to look within your most sacred, pure and present heart (yes, that one right there, which you all too often discount) is really the most rewarding path of all. And maybe that will get you where you want to go.
The question has been asked about a certain group following a certain person's ideas and practices. The question is whether it is a beneficial energy transfer or a cult. The answer is, of course, it depends. It depends on who is interacting with this group and these ideas and this energy, because you will make of it what you will, according to your temperament, your choices, your intentions for this lifetime, the lessons you have chosen to pursue, your karma and of course your free will.
As with anything, you might ask yourself, "Why am I attracted to this? What am I hoping to gain?" Most people get in trouble trying to gain something for themselves rather than for others, and trying to get somewhere the easy way, without effort or doing the work. This is why people fall flat and why things will get harder for you when you walk in this expectant manner.
In this particular instance - although it extrapolates to all instances - many people have given much money to persons of this type in attempting to receive a transmission which will bring them to enlightenment (or so they say). It is of course a fine idea, that enlightenment can be bought and sold in this way. The appeal of having someone simply lay their hands upon you and give you what you seek? Well, that is as old as being born human and the craving for the perfect parental experience. Which nobody ever receives.
Do not mistake the longing for the possibility of eradicating the longing. Why would you think the path to enlightenment - which is after all the sense of freedom gained only through liberation from attachment to the human condition of desire - can be found in this way? It is kind of funny, if you think on it. It is really, as presented in this and many other places, just a big cookie to keep your sugar cravings intact. This is not to say that there is no energy transfer available. But nobody can guarantee what you make of it. Every human (and many other beings on this planet and in fact far beyond) gives of energy and shares it with others. You can give someone a bad day just by looking at them in a certain manner, you know this, correct? You can make someone's day better with a simple smile. (So, why wouldn't you? The question is begged.)
So we would say, if you go looking for personal salvation - perhaps you are trying to escape this place, or the pain and suffering inherent in the human condition, and who can blame you? - if you go looking at any price for something you want so badly in this way, then a blast of energy could expose you to yourself and it might not be easy to handle or beautiful to see. It might make you crazy for a while, or depressed, or feel lost even more than you were. But it also could give you a jolt and you might feel a sort of hopefulness for a while, that there is some way for you to walk out of here on a cloud.
Maybe it would be useful to reflect for a while on what it is you came here to do, and whether or not your mission, as it were, is served most properly in the hoping for someone to touch you into enlightenment? Perhaps - and we speculate here - your work here is to do the very hard thing of being present with yourself and with others, in as loving a manner as you possibly can muster, which, granted, will not seem like much at some times. And perhaps in this way you will find that to crave is to feel sickness and to generate goodwill for yourself and all beings is truly the work at hand. (How many people wish for enlightenment without being truly willing to just love themselves as they are? How is that supposed to work?) And perhaps you will find that to look elsewhere is beside the point, and to look within your most sacred, pure and present heart (yes, that one right there, which you all too often discount) is really the most rewarding path of all. And maybe that will get you where you want to go.
Wednesday, April 22, 2015
Depression
Dear Ones -
Today we would like to correct some misunderstandings if we may.
Depression is not one thing. It is not a bad thing. It does not mean anyone did anything wrong. It is a coping skill, an attempt to deal with things that feel undealable-with. So, have a little space in yourself for your own depressive times and those of others.
What makes depression worse? Well, you all know the answers to this. It is worse when you hold it in and pretend it doesn't matter or doesn't happen to you at all. It is worse when you allow it a foothold in your mind without fighting back, fighting for your right to survive it. It is worse when you tell someone to just cheer up. Cheering up is not possible, nor is it an accurate prescription for what ails.
What makes depression better? Well, you know this as well. Getting out of the house and looking up at the sky and breathing air. Purpose. Intention. Will. Resting gently as opposed to sinking into the quagmire without lifting your hand as a signal, "Hey, I could use some help here..." Giving yourself or another one something encouraging like a pat on the back. Saying to yourself or another one, "Hey, I am here for you. I don't know what to do, but I won't look away. I will bear witness to your pain and I won't compare and I will agree it just sucks." Or something along those lines.
Depression is anger and sorrow and fear turned inwards, like a nasty ingrown hair. The skin of your psyche grows up around it, thick and irritated. Even when the pressure is relieved, the cause beneath the surface must be addressed. And nobody wants to do that, because it is ugly and it hurts. But oh, the soothing balm of a cool compress of compassion, the drawing out power of patience and the listening ear. What you hear and feel will never be as bad, we promise, as the attempt to not feel and hear and see it has been.
Sometimes the fear is the fear of failure, sometimes the fear of success. Sometimes the sorrow is of loss and transition, but sometimes one's own limitations - the inherent limitations in the human condition, we add - are the pain that cannot be borne. Sometimes it is just a way to survive. Deepen into the swampy place, breathe as little as possible, eat and drink the things that bring you sleep and nervous energy and oblivion.
But underneath it all, you are longing to be free, to love yourself and come out into your place in the world. And every moment this is true. And every moment brings an opportunity to touch that truth in you. Some days it is closer to the surface. Some days it is harder to find. But it is indestructible, adamantine, and it sparkles when it comes into the light. Trust this. Never give up. You have work to do and joy to behold and love to send and to receive. Please do. You have come all this way, not for nothing. It's never too late. Not now.
Today we would like to correct some misunderstandings if we may.
Depression is not one thing. It is not a bad thing. It does not mean anyone did anything wrong. It is a coping skill, an attempt to deal with things that feel undealable-with. So, have a little space in yourself for your own depressive times and those of others.
What makes depression worse? Well, you all know the answers to this. It is worse when you hold it in and pretend it doesn't matter or doesn't happen to you at all. It is worse when you allow it a foothold in your mind without fighting back, fighting for your right to survive it. It is worse when you tell someone to just cheer up. Cheering up is not possible, nor is it an accurate prescription for what ails.
What makes depression better? Well, you know this as well. Getting out of the house and looking up at the sky and breathing air. Purpose. Intention. Will. Resting gently as opposed to sinking into the quagmire without lifting your hand as a signal, "Hey, I could use some help here..." Giving yourself or another one something encouraging like a pat on the back. Saying to yourself or another one, "Hey, I am here for you. I don't know what to do, but I won't look away. I will bear witness to your pain and I won't compare and I will agree it just sucks." Or something along those lines.
Depression is anger and sorrow and fear turned inwards, like a nasty ingrown hair. The skin of your psyche grows up around it, thick and irritated. Even when the pressure is relieved, the cause beneath the surface must be addressed. And nobody wants to do that, because it is ugly and it hurts. But oh, the soothing balm of a cool compress of compassion, the drawing out power of patience and the listening ear. What you hear and feel will never be as bad, we promise, as the attempt to not feel and hear and see it has been.
Sometimes the fear is the fear of failure, sometimes the fear of success. Sometimes the sorrow is of loss and transition, but sometimes one's own limitations - the inherent limitations in the human condition, we add - are the pain that cannot be borne. Sometimes it is just a way to survive. Deepen into the swampy place, breathe as little as possible, eat and drink the things that bring you sleep and nervous energy and oblivion.
But underneath it all, you are longing to be free, to love yourself and come out into your place in the world. And every moment this is true. And every moment brings an opportunity to touch that truth in you. Some days it is closer to the surface. Some days it is harder to find. But it is indestructible, adamantine, and it sparkles when it comes into the light. Trust this. Never give up. You have work to do and joy to behold and love to send and to receive. Please do. You have come all this way, not for nothing. It's never too late. Not now.
Wednesday, April 15, 2015
Why Work So Hard?
Dear Ones -
We are a bit late with this post, because we have been helping Ker write the new website (much excitement in the wings! It's not done yet!). Here is the thing we want to tell you, and her if she will listen: It doesn't always have to be so hard. Humans have a knack for creating difficulty. We wonder if perhaps it isn't difficult enough to be human without making it worse? What in the world do we mean?
When someone hurts your feelings, do you dwell on the hurt and the feelings that arise from it? Or do you shake it off and let your truth be your own guide, rather than reacting to another person's distortions? Sometimes it is easier to shake it off, and sometimes it takes time to sort out and return to balance.
Can we just say this? When you can shake it off easily, please do. When it takes more time to sort out, don't be lazy. Take care of yourself, but take any opportunity of the moment to move along and come back to a balanced place. Balance is an option. Make it so.
When you have a job to do, do you let it overwhelm you? Do you distract yourself with games and worries and social media baloney? Or do you break it down into manageable chunks, doing the hard bits when you have the energy and the easy bits when things feel more difficult? Do you ever just say to yourself hey, let's get this done!? It is an option.
Furthermore, may we suggest, that when things get heavy and sloggish and hard, when you feel lost and alone or like giving up, that you take a few moments and close your eyes and breathe, and call for help. Just call out in your mind and your heart, ask for help.
It doesn't have to be a god thing, or a spirit guide thing, or an angel, although it could be all of those. It could be asking to see what can be done, who to check in with, asking for your own courageous heart to come to your side. You could ask that things be made easier. Sometimes this looks like it came from outside, but sometimes it is just stepping back into the Flow of things, of Life.
You might be forgetting, from time to time, that although life is difficult in places, and sometimes quite a lot, that you don't need to make it worse. You can ask yourself: Am I making this worse? Can I just let this one go? Do I really have to make this so hard? Can I relax and allow myself to just go where I need to go?
Remember there is all the love in the Universe at your disposal. Use a little of it on your own behalf from time to time, and maybe you'll get some things taken care of that have been bothering you. And maybe some other things won't always be so hard.
With love,
BlueStar and Counsel of Light
We are a bit late with this post, because we have been helping Ker write the new website (much excitement in the wings! It's not done yet!). Here is the thing we want to tell you, and her if she will listen: It doesn't always have to be so hard. Humans have a knack for creating difficulty. We wonder if perhaps it isn't difficult enough to be human without making it worse? What in the world do we mean?
When someone hurts your feelings, do you dwell on the hurt and the feelings that arise from it? Or do you shake it off and let your truth be your own guide, rather than reacting to another person's distortions? Sometimes it is easier to shake it off, and sometimes it takes time to sort out and return to balance.
Can we just say this? When you can shake it off easily, please do. When it takes more time to sort out, don't be lazy. Take care of yourself, but take any opportunity of the moment to move along and come back to a balanced place. Balance is an option. Make it so.
When you have a job to do, do you let it overwhelm you? Do you distract yourself with games and worries and social media baloney? Or do you break it down into manageable chunks, doing the hard bits when you have the energy and the easy bits when things feel more difficult? Do you ever just say to yourself hey, let's get this done!? It is an option.
Furthermore, may we suggest, that when things get heavy and sloggish and hard, when you feel lost and alone or like giving up, that you take a few moments and close your eyes and breathe, and call for help. Just call out in your mind and your heart, ask for help.
It doesn't have to be a god thing, or a spirit guide thing, or an angel, although it could be all of those. It could be asking to see what can be done, who to check in with, asking for your own courageous heart to come to your side. You could ask that things be made easier. Sometimes this looks like it came from outside, but sometimes it is just stepping back into the Flow of things, of Life.
You might be forgetting, from time to time, that although life is difficult in places, and sometimes quite a lot, that you don't need to make it worse. You can ask yourself: Am I making this worse? Can I just let this one go? Do I really have to make this so hard? Can I relax and allow myself to just go where I need to go?
Remember there is all the love in the Universe at your disposal. Use a little of it on your own behalf from time to time, and maybe you'll get some things taken care of that have been bothering you. And maybe some other things won't always be so hard.
With love,
BlueStar and Counsel of Light
Monday, April 6, 2015
On Risks
Good day dear humans!
We want to say a little bit about taking risks today.
Many people are what they might call risk-averse. Many people are what they might call daring. But however you identify, we say look carefully at what you are doing and you will see that everyone is both of these, each day.
it is a risk to get out of bed, also a risk to stay in bed. If you get up, anything could happen in your day. You might make mistakes. You might have success. You might trip and stumble. You might have your best hair day yet. Someone you love might die today. It could even be you.
Staying in bed brings with it similar possibilities. You might finally get some rest. You might miss something fantastic out there in the world. You might not get wet if it rains. You might soil the bed if you don't get up at all. You might have a stroke of genius, having taken time to relax. You might spend the day in the grip of anxiety, not freeing it from your body through movement and space. People die in bed, too.
What we are saying is that everything is a bold adventure and everything has risk. Everything has the potential to be boring as heck. No matter what you do, life is full of incalculable possibilities, and here is the thing: nothing ever turns out as you think. Ever. There will always be surprises, plot twists, accidents of nature and of fate. If only you hadn't left the house five minutes early or late, you would not have been in that accident or met the love of your life.
It is all a big crapshoot, as they say, so what are you waiting for? Mistakes will be made, synchronicity will occur, love will fade, joy will flourish, something unusual will pop up in the most unexpected places. Will it be a volunteer plant in your garden, a flower or vegetable you will be glad to see? Or will it be a tumor, taking you on a journey to fight for your life? And how will you choose to move forward on days like this?
All you can really do is make choices. But not the ones you suppose. You can choose to face your experience or you can try to hide (both are a valid response). You can choose the big picture or the minutiae. You can choose to go right or left, some of the time, or backwards or forwards or halt. But everything is moving, with or without your permission, so you don't get to control it by your will. What you do receive is possibility and the capacity to say to yourself: OK, this is not what I want, but I can handle it. Or: WOW, that went better than I thought! Or: Hey, let's see what we can make of this (like the semi-random tiles of your turn in the game of Scrabble). (Think about it, that game. What a good name for it. What a metaphor.)
All of this is in aid of simply pointing out that you are not in control. Whatever you are aiming for, it has the element of surprise, with everything else. That is no reason not to try. Also no reason to keep going in some direction you decided on back then. You may have destiny, you may have free will, and so does everyone else, and the earth keeps turning in space. So, knowing this, what do you choose?
We want to say a little bit about taking risks today.
Many people are what they might call risk-averse. Many people are what they might call daring. But however you identify, we say look carefully at what you are doing and you will see that everyone is both of these, each day.
it is a risk to get out of bed, also a risk to stay in bed. If you get up, anything could happen in your day. You might make mistakes. You might have success. You might trip and stumble. You might have your best hair day yet. Someone you love might die today. It could even be you.
Staying in bed brings with it similar possibilities. You might finally get some rest. You might miss something fantastic out there in the world. You might not get wet if it rains. You might soil the bed if you don't get up at all. You might have a stroke of genius, having taken time to relax. You might spend the day in the grip of anxiety, not freeing it from your body through movement and space. People die in bed, too.
What we are saying is that everything is a bold adventure and everything has risk. Everything has the potential to be boring as heck. No matter what you do, life is full of incalculable possibilities, and here is the thing: nothing ever turns out as you think. Ever. There will always be surprises, plot twists, accidents of nature and of fate. If only you hadn't left the house five minutes early or late, you would not have been in that accident or met the love of your life.
It is all a big crapshoot, as they say, so what are you waiting for? Mistakes will be made, synchronicity will occur, love will fade, joy will flourish, something unusual will pop up in the most unexpected places. Will it be a volunteer plant in your garden, a flower or vegetable you will be glad to see? Or will it be a tumor, taking you on a journey to fight for your life? And how will you choose to move forward on days like this?
All you can really do is make choices. But not the ones you suppose. You can choose to face your experience or you can try to hide (both are a valid response). You can choose the big picture or the minutiae. You can choose to go right or left, some of the time, or backwards or forwards or halt. But everything is moving, with or without your permission, so you don't get to control it by your will. What you do receive is possibility and the capacity to say to yourself: OK, this is not what I want, but I can handle it. Or: WOW, that went better than I thought! Or: Hey, let's see what we can make of this (like the semi-random tiles of your turn in the game of Scrabble). (Think about it, that game. What a good name for it. What a metaphor.)
All of this is in aid of simply pointing out that you are not in control. Whatever you are aiming for, it has the element of surprise, with everything else. That is no reason not to try. Also no reason to keep going in some direction you decided on back then. You may have destiny, you may have free will, and so does everyone else, and the earth keeps turning in space. So, knowing this, what do you choose?
Tuesday, March 31, 2015
Beliefs and Life Maps
Hello all -
There has arisen (already! how about that!) a question regarding Beliefs and Life Maps, from the previous post about Frustration and Overwhelm. It is really very simple, in theory, to explain. The trouble is, you may know and understand what we are saying, but it can be quite difficult to alter these things once put in place in the material plane of existence.
We don't want to say a bad thing about systems such as that so-called Law of Attraction, but it seems to us that it has been presented in a manner in which it was easy for many of you to interpret as: you are wrong, you are bad, you deserve pain, you are stupid, what's wrong with you that your life is not perfect the way you believe you would like it to be...? This is not that. It is not what we are saying, although in some resonances it may sound very much the same. So, here goes.
As mentioned previously, one's experiences at an early time in life, including and especially the responses one receives from tribe members and others who are close and/or in power over your being at some time (teachers, babysitters, parents of friends and the like), will lead one to conclusions and beliefs about How Things Work here on this planet in this plane. Conclusions and Beliefs guide the development of your Life Map, as we call it. You might just call it Life.
You may find, if you research it long enough, that many scientific studies have shown among humans that what is believed about one's life is what comes to pass. More about that in a moment. First may we say, each life contains myriad factors which affect the progression and the outcome of each "life". So, don't worry too much about the things you cannot control (we would say don't worry about those things at all, but that might be asking too much). Especially the facts of your early life and whether you were embraced or rejected, entrained or adopted, there is so much groundwork over which you had no say. But meaning is yours to make as you wish, now. With a few exceptions.
Meaning is yours to make, now, but keep in mind a few things. Meaning-making takes practice, takes skills you must now develop. It is natural to make meaning, as empathy and love and anger are natural, too. But how you develop these things and in which directions (do you love yourself or just those around you, and so forth and so on) is your work now. And your ability to make meaning, and the meanings that appear to be available to you, might be narrower than you think. So we invite you to stretch and believe things that you don't always think are possible, and to disbelieve things which you have always counted upon to be true.
For example, maybe you have never felt loved. Maybe not really and truly, the way each person longs to feel such a thing, indeed. So now you could stretch just a little and believe - just for a day or a week or a few minutes if that's all you've got - that you are in fact loved. Deeply and unconditionally and fully known and loved all the more for that. All your foibles. Known and loved. All your talents. Known, acknowledged and loved. Whether or not you bring them to bear, whether or not you gather or distribute your fruit. You are loved. Just for a moment, imagine this is true and believe it. Then see what happens in your life. If you made a habit of believing and seeking the truth of this, your entire world would change.
This is not to say that everyone loves you equally. Not everyone knows it yet. But you are loved.
If you believe, and have believed that the world is a difficult place, it will appear to be so for you. Many people think, but what of poverty? when they themselves are not as impoverished as some. Let us tell you, it does no good to worry about the conceptual in place of attending to your own world. Where is there poverty within you? Where is the poverty around you? And where, we ask in all truth, is your wealth? Every life has wealth, every life is lacking. What is your particular layout and how did it come to be? And what have you enjoyed the privilege of without knowing? And it what way have you been oppressed? You are your own worst enemy. How will you now become your friend?
Your life is not preordained to follow a certain path. While there is such a thing as destiny, there is also such a thing as free will. And the free will of others can alter the course of your life, no matter what you had planned when you got here. When we say Life Map, what we mean is the map of your life. The one you look back on at death, to see where you came from and how you traveled. Not how far but by what means. You may be surprised to see how beautiful it was, in spite of your beliefs. You may be surprised to see how much mercy you were shown and what tender care the world took of you, behind your back, where you could not see. But you can feel it now.
You could relax your conclusions a bit, and stay open to what is here, now. You are traveling in ways you have no idea of, with strength and clarity and courage and light. If you stretch your beliefs a little bit now, maybe you will have a little more fun. Maybe you will see yourself sooner, just as you are. Maybe confusion is not proof that something is wrong.
You will find there are studies showing people who feel themselves lucky, in fact, have luckier lives. They are the ones who find the twenty dollars lying on the street. The ones who do not believe such things about themselves will simply pass it by. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THE DOLLARS DO NOT EXIST. It means you experience what you have come to expect in the world, and your beliefs will map your life, from now until you leave it. And you have choice.
We also want to say you have beliefs handed down to you, and especially ones upon which you have based your survival, and these are quite difficult to erase. Instead of eradication, you could allow your goal to be relaxation, calming the fears, and expanding what else might arise. It may be that you don't find money in the street, but other people do, so WHY NOT YOU? It may be that success in the world has eluded you thus far, but other people find success, so WHY NOT YOU? If you can calm your survival thoughts down, there will be room for new beliefs and then you can make choices based on new ideas of what's possible. And then it can expand to include the whole world. Peace is possible here and there, so WHY NOT EVERYWHERE ELSE? Or at least here, in this moment, where you are. Live your ideals, not just your earliest conclusions, and your Life Map alters slightly each day. Before you know it, you are mapping a life more in keeping with who you meant to be, the original idea you had when you chose to arise here.
We hope this is a clarifying explanation. Feel free to ask more questions in the comments!
With Love,
BlueStar and team
There has arisen (already! how about that!) a question regarding Beliefs and Life Maps, from the previous post about Frustration and Overwhelm. It is really very simple, in theory, to explain. The trouble is, you may know and understand what we are saying, but it can be quite difficult to alter these things once put in place in the material plane of existence.
We don't want to say a bad thing about systems such as that so-called Law of Attraction, but it seems to us that it has been presented in a manner in which it was easy for many of you to interpret as: you are wrong, you are bad, you deserve pain, you are stupid, what's wrong with you that your life is not perfect the way you believe you would like it to be...? This is not that. It is not what we are saying, although in some resonances it may sound very much the same. So, here goes.
As mentioned previously, one's experiences at an early time in life, including and especially the responses one receives from tribe members and others who are close and/or in power over your being at some time (teachers, babysitters, parents of friends and the like), will lead one to conclusions and beliefs about How Things Work here on this planet in this plane. Conclusions and Beliefs guide the development of your Life Map, as we call it. You might just call it Life.
You may find, if you research it long enough, that many scientific studies have shown among humans that what is believed about one's life is what comes to pass. More about that in a moment. First may we say, each life contains myriad factors which affect the progression and the outcome of each "life". So, don't worry too much about the things you cannot control (we would say don't worry about those things at all, but that might be asking too much). Especially the facts of your early life and whether you were embraced or rejected, entrained or adopted, there is so much groundwork over which you had no say. But meaning is yours to make as you wish, now. With a few exceptions.
Meaning is yours to make, now, but keep in mind a few things. Meaning-making takes practice, takes skills you must now develop. It is natural to make meaning, as empathy and love and anger are natural, too. But how you develop these things and in which directions (do you love yourself or just those around you, and so forth and so on) is your work now. And your ability to make meaning, and the meanings that appear to be available to you, might be narrower than you think. So we invite you to stretch and believe things that you don't always think are possible, and to disbelieve things which you have always counted upon to be true.
For example, maybe you have never felt loved. Maybe not really and truly, the way each person longs to feel such a thing, indeed. So now you could stretch just a little and believe - just for a day or a week or a few minutes if that's all you've got - that you are in fact loved. Deeply and unconditionally and fully known and loved all the more for that. All your foibles. Known and loved. All your talents. Known, acknowledged and loved. Whether or not you bring them to bear, whether or not you gather or distribute your fruit. You are loved. Just for a moment, imagine this is true and believe it. Then see what happens in your life. If you made a habit of believing and seeking the truth of this, your entire world would change.
This is not to say that everyone loves you equally. Not everyone knows it yet. But you are loved.
If you believe, and have believed that the world is a difficult place, it will appear to be so for you. Many people think, but what of poverty? when they themselves are not as impoverished as some. Let us tell you, it does no good to worry about the conceptual in place of attending to your own world. Where is there poverty within you? Where is the poverty around you? And where, we ask in all truth, is your wealth? Every life has wealth, every life is lacking. What is your particular layout and how did it come to be? And what have you enjoyed the privilege of without knowing? And it what way have you been oppressed? You are your own worst enemy. How will you now become your friend?
Your life is not preordained to follow a certain path. While there is such a thing as destiny, there is also such a thing as free will. And the free will of others can alter the course of your life, no matter what you had planned when you got here. When we say Life Map, what we mean is the map of your life. The one you look back on at death, to see where you came from and how you traveled. Not how far but by what means. You may be surprised to see how beautiful it was, in spite of your beliefs. You may be surprised to see how much mercy you were shown and what tender care the world took of you, behind your back, where you could not see. But you can feel it now.
You could relax your conclusions a bit, and stay open to what is here, now. You are traveling in ways you have no idea of, with strength and clarity and courage and light. If you stretch your beliefs a little bit now, maybe you will have a little more fun. Maybe you will see yourself sooner, just as you are. Maybe confusion is not proof that something is wrong.
You will find there are studies showing people who feel themselves lucky, in fact, have luckier lives. They are the ones who find the twenty dollars lying on the street. The ones who do not believe such things about themselves will simply pass it by. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THE DOLLARS DO NOT EXIST. It means you experience what you have come to expect in the world, and your beliefs will map your life, from now until you leave it. And you have choice.
We also want to say you have beliefs handed down to you, and especially ones upon which you have based your survival, and these are quite difficult to erase. Instead of eradication, you could allow your goal to be relaxation, calming the fears, and expanding what else might arise. It may be that you don't find money in the street, but other people do, so WHY NOT YOU? It may be that success in the world has eluded you thus far, but other people find success, so WHY NOT YOU? If you can calm your survival thoughts down, there will be room for new beliefs and then you can make choices based on new ideas of what's possible. And then it can expand to include the whole world. Peace is possible here and there, so WHY NOT EVERYWHERE ELSE? Or at least here, in this moment, where you are. Live your ideals, not just your earliest conclusions, and your Life Map alters slightly each day. Before you know it, you are mapping a life more in keeping with who you meant to be, the original idea you had when you chose to arise here.
We hope this is a clarifying explanation. Feel free to ask more questions in the comments!
With Love,
BlueStar and team
Sunday, March 29, 2015
Frustration and Overwhelm
Hello dearly beloveds!
Today's topic is frustration and overwhelm, something you all have experienced from time to time. Think about being a very, very small child. Think about trying to figure out this 3-D world into which you have fallen. Think about all there is to learn and understand, and that when you ask for directions, no one understands what you said. Think about when you make your needs known, very few people get it. Think about all that is going on around you, that sometimes does and sometimes doesn't include you, and think about how hard it is to find your place in it all.
Now you have some idea of what we are discussing here today. Did reading that take you back? Did you imagine or remember the sensations of being new to the planet and trying to figure it out, without really very much luck for the first few YEARS?
You didn't give up. If you had you wouldn't be here now. You didn't surrender and say oh, let them just have their way. No, you did not. Even if some part of you did. More on that in a minute. You didn't quit trying to make your way in the world, even if you couldn't see clearly what that meant or what it would take, where you were going or how to get there. You kept on working at it. Sometimes you wept, sometimes you grew enraged, sometimes you had to just go to sleep or lie down for a while and cuddle yourself towards comfort.
Some of how you experience the world these days was laid down in those days, so just take a moment and draw your own conclusions.
And drawing conclusions is what everyone does, from day one. You must do it in order to conserve energy. You must do it in order to move ahead. You must do it in order to survive in the world, to remain in the tribe. more or less until the day comes you feel fit to move out on your own. But you are never wholly on your own, because your tribe comes with you, even when you make a new tribe in your own time. So, remember this, you are carrying the traditions, beliefs and conclusions of your original tribe and the tribes who came before them. So you are never alone, never new or wholly original, never only yourself. This is good news and also can be difficult to bear. So you may have noted.
When the tribe you started with in this lifetime responded to you as a child (and yes as a baby and yes in the womb and possibly in how they thought of you before you even took root and began to form materially), you drew some conclusions from that. And you formed - everyone forms - hypotheses, and tested them, and found some things out. And then you had Beliefs. And Beliefs are what your Life Map is made of, and what opens the way ahead.
When your beliefs do not match reality, you might get frustrated. When your needs are not met, you may get overwhelmed. But how you respond to frustration and overwhelm are what continue to reinforce both your conclusions and your beliefs, which, we probably don't need to point out, are what guide your actions. (For the purposes of this post, actions include thoughts and choices.)
When you are frustrated and overwhelmed you will not make the best choices for the actual circumstances of your actual, present-day life. When you need to live your life, and you are frustrated and/or overwhelmed (we hope you see how the two are interconnected. If not, please ask in comments below.), then we suggest you Stop. Take a moment or two. Allow some space to flow into the experience you are having; allow things to slow and form a kind of gap. In that space, or gap, you will find enough respite to understand what is called for in this time. Maybe you need a longer break. Maybe you need to rest. Maybe you need to cry, or work on something else, or go pee. Maybe food is required, or friendship, or solitude or a walk. All the possibilities are inherent in that gap.
From the respite of the gap - please believe us, a gap is enough space for you to reconnect with your own deep inner wisdom, truly it is - from this respite you can make choices that you cannot make if too frustrated or overwhelmed. Think of it as the point at which you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and say OK, try again. (As you did when learning to walk, lo these many years ago, for most of you.) Or you say OK, I'm going to do something else now. Or you say hm, time for a bath and a book before bed.
It is quite normal, even after all these years on Earth, to have the same basic needs as when you first got here. The tricky bit is not to fool yourself that you don't need those things, that respite, that love. The tricky bit is to give yourself what you need. Because now you have the power and the capacity to hear yourself and evaluate the scene and take action. Even if - especially if - that action happens to be a nap.
Much Love,
BlueStar
PS For those who feel lost when trying to find their way, we want to remind you there was a time when you did not read. When not only could you not read, but you didn't know of reading, as a ting. You had no comprehension, no notion of "read" and yet you went steadily, inexorably toward it, and it became a part of you and your world at some time. You may not know where you are heading, but you will get there. And it will open up even more worlds. We promise.
PPS For those of you who are thinking now of illiteracy rates, we encourage you to do something about that if you can.
Today's topic is frustration and overwhelm, something you all have experienced from time to time. Think about being a very, very small child. Think about trying to figure out this 3-D world into which you have fallen. Think about all there is to learn and understand, and that when you ask for directions, no one understands what you said. Think about when you make your needs known, very few people get it. Think about all that is going on around you, that sometimes does and sometimes doesn't include you, and think about how hard it is to find your place in it all.
Now you have some idea of what we are discussing here today. Did reading that take you back? Did you imagine or remember the sensations of being new to the planet and trying to figure it out, without really very much luck for the first few YEARS?
You didn't give up. If you had you wouldn't be here now. You didn't surrender and say oh, let them just have their way. No, you did not. Even if some part of you did. More on that in a minute. You didn't quit trying to make your way in the world, even if you couldn't see clearly what that meant or what it would take, where you were going or how to get there. You kept on working at it. Sometimes you wept, sometimes you grew enraged, sometimes you had to just go to sleep or lie down for a while and cuddle yourself towards comfort.
Some of how you experience the world these days was laid down in those days, so just take a moment and draw your own conclusions.
And drawing conclusions is what everyone does, from day one. You must do it in order to conserve energy. You must do it in order to move ahead. You must do it in order to survive in the world, to remain in the tribe. more or less until the day comes you feel fit to move out on your own. But you are never wholly on your own, because your tribe comes with you, even when you make a new tribe in your own time. So, remember this, you are carrying the traditions, beliefs and conclusions of your original tribe and the tribes who came before them. So you are never alone, never new or wholly original, never only yourself. This is good news and also can be difficult to bear. So you may have noted.
When the tribe you started with in this lifetime responded to you as a child (and yes as a baby and yes in the womb and possibly in how they thought of you before you even took root and began to form materially), you drew some conclusions from that. And you formed - everyone forms - hypotheses, and tested them, and found some things out. And then you had Beliefs. And Beliefs are what your Life Map is made of, and what opens the way ahead.
When your beliefs do not match reality, you might get frustrated. When your needs are not met, you may get overwhelmed. But how you respond to frustration and overwhelm are what continue to reinforce both your conclusions and your beliefs, which, we probably don't need to point out, are what guide your actions. (For the purposes of this post, actions include thoughts and choices.)
When you are frustrated and overwhelmed you will not make the best choices for the actual circumstances of your actual, present-day life. When you need to live your life, and you are frustrated and/or overwhelmed (we hope you see how the two are interconnected. If not, please ask in comments below.), then we suggest you Stop. Take a moment or two. Allow some space to flow into the experience you are having; allow things to slow and form a kind of gap. In that space, or gap, you will find enough respite to understand what is called for in this time. Maybe you need a longer break. Maybe you need to rest. Maybe you need to cry, or work on something else, or go pee. Maybe food is required, or friendship, or solitude or a walk. All the possibilities are inherent in that gap.
From the respite of the gap - please believe us, a gap is enough space for you to reconnect with your own deep inner wisdom, truly it is - from this respite you can make choices that you cannot make if too frustrated or overwhelmed. Think of it as the point at which you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and say OK, try again. (As you did when learning to walk, lo these many years ago, for most of you.) Or you say OK, I'm going to do something else now. Or you say hm, time for a bath and a book before bed.
It is quite normal, even after all these years on Earth, to have the same basic needs as when you first got here. The tricky bit is not to fool yourself that you don't need those things, that respite, that love. The tricky bit is to give yourself what you need. Because now you have the power and the capacity to hear yourself and evaluate the scene and take action. Even if - especially if - that action happens to be a nap.
Much Love,
BlueStar
PS For those who feel lost when trying to find their way, we want to remind you there was a time when you did not read. When not only could you not read, but you didn't know of reading, as a ting. You had no comprehension, no notion of "read" and yet you went steadily, inexorably toward it, and it became a part of you and your world at some time. You may not know where you are heading, but you will get there. And it will open up even more worlds. We promise.
PPS For those of you who are thinking now of illiteracy rates, we encourage you to do something about that if you can.
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