Hello all -
There has arisen (already! how about that!) a question regarding Beliefs and Life Maps, from the previous post about Frustration and Overwhelm. It is really very simple, in theory, to explain. The trouble is, you may know and understand what we are saying, but it can be quite difficult to alter these things once put in place in the material plane of existence.
We don't want to say a bad thing about systems such as that so-called Law of Attraction, but it seems to us that it has been presented in a manner in which it was easy for many of you to interpret as: you are wrong, you are bad, you deserve pain, you are stupid, what's wrong with you that your life is not perfect the way you believe you would like it to be...? This is not that. It is not what we are saying, although in some resonances it may sound very much the same. So, here goes.
As mentioned previously, one's experiences at an early time in life, including and especially the responses one receives from tribe members and others who are close and/or in power over your being at some time (teachers, babysitters, parents of friends and the like), will lead one to conclusions and beliefs about How Things Work here on this planet in this plane. Conclusions and Beliefs guide the development of your Life Map, as we call it. You might just call it Life.
You may find, if you research it long enough, that many scientific studies have shown among humans that what is believed about one's life is what comes to pass. More about that in a moment. First may we say, each life contains myriad factors which affect the progression and the outcome of each "life". So, don't worry too much about the things you cannot control (we would say don't worry about those things at all, but that might be asking too much). Especially the facts of your early life and whether you were embraced or rejected, entrained or adopted, there is so much groundwork over which you had no say. But meaning is yours to make as you wish, now. With a few exceptions.
Meaning is yours to make, now, but keep in mind a few things. Meaning-making takes practice, takes skills you must now develop. It is natural to make meaning, as empathy and love and anger are natural, too. But how you develop these things and in which directions (do you love yourself or just those around you, and so forth and so on) is your work now. And your ability to make meaning, and the meanings that appear to be available to you, might be narrower than you think. So we invite you to stretch and believe things that you don't always think are possible, and to disbelieve things which you have always counted upon to be true.
For example, maybe you have never felt loved. Maybe not really and truly, the way each person longs to feel such a thing, indeed. So now you could stretch just a little and believe - just for a day or a week or a few minutes if that's all you've got - that you are in fact loved. Deeply and unconditionally and fully known and loved all the more for that. All your foibles. Known and loved. All your talents. Known, acknowledged and loved. Whether or not you bring them to bear, whether or not you gather or distribute your fruit. You are loved. Just for a moment, imagine this is true and believe it. Then see what happens in your life. If you made a habit of believing and seeking the truth of this, your entire world would change.
This is not to say that everyone loves you equally. Not everyone knows it yet. But you are loved.
If you believe, and have believed that the world is a difficult place, it will appear to be so for you. Many people think, but what of poverty? when they themselves are not as impoverished as some. Let us tell you, it does no good to worry about the conceptual in place of attending to your own world. Where is there poverty within you? Where is the poverty around you? And where, we ask in all truth, is your wealth? Every life has wealth, every life is lacking. What is your particular layout and how did it come to be? And what have you enjoyed the privilege of without knowing? And it what way have you been oppressed? You are your own worst enemy. How will you now become your friend?
Your life is not preordained to follow a certain path. While there is such a thing as destiny, there is also such a thing as free will. And the free will of others can alter the course of your life, no matter what you had planned when you got here. When we say Life Map, what we mean is the map of your life. The one you look back on at death, to see where you came from and how you traveled. Not how far but by what means. You may be surprised to see how beautiful it was, in spite of your beliefs. You may be surprised to see how much mercy you were shown and what tender care the world took of you, behind your back, where you could not see. But you can feel it now.
You could relax your conclusions a bit, and stay open to what is here, now. You are traveling in ways you have no idea of, with strength and clarity and courage and light. If you stretch your beliefs a little bit now, maybe you will have a little more fun. Maybe you will see yourself sooner, just as you are. Maybe confusion is not proof that something is wrong.
You will find there are studies showing people who feel themselves lucky, in fact, have luckier lives. They are the ones who find the twenty dollars lying on the street. The ones who do not believe such things about themselves will simply pass it by. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THE DOLLARS DO NOT EXIST. It means you experience what you have come to expect in the world, and your beliefs will map your life, from now until you leave it. And you have choice.
We also want to say you have beliefs handed down to you, and especially ones upon which you have based your survival, and these are quite difficult to erase. Instead of eradication, you could allow your goal to be relaxation, calming the fears, and expanding what else might arise. It may be that you don't find money in the street, but other people do, so WHY NOT YOU? It may be that success in the world has eluded you thus far, but other people find success, so WHY NOT YOU? If you can calm your survival thoughts down, there will be room for new beliefs and then you can make choices based on new ideas of what's possible. And then it can expand to include the whole world. Peace is possible here and there, so WHY NOT EVERYWHERE ELSE? Or at least here, in this moment, where you are. Live your ideals, not just your earliest conclusions, and your Life Map alters slightly each day. Before you know it, you are mapping a life more in keeping with who you meant to be, the original idea you had when you chose to arise here.
We hope this is a clarifying explanation. Feel free to ask more questions in the comments!
With Love,
BlueStar and team
Tuesday, March 31, 2015
Sunday, March 29, 2015
Frustration and Overwhelm
Hello dearly beloveds!
Today's topic is frustration and overwhelm, something you all have experienced from time to time. Think about being a very, very small child. Think about trying to figure out this 3-D world into which you have fallen. Think about all there is to learn and understand, and that when you ask for directions, no one understands what you said. Think about when you make your needs known, very few people get it. Think about all that is going on around you, that sometimes does and sometimes doesn't include you, and think about how hard it is to find your place in it all.
Now you have some idea of what we are discussing here today. Did reading that take you back? Did you imagine or remember the sensations of being new to the planet and trying to figure it out, without really very much luck for the first few YEARS?
You didn't give up. If you had you wouldn't be here now. You didn't surrender and say oh, let them just have their way. No, you did not. Even if some part of you did. More on that in a minute. You didn't quit trying to make your way in the world, even if you couldn't see clearly what that meant or what it would take, where you were going or how to get there. You kept on working at it. Sometimes you wept, sometimes you grew enraged, sometimes you had to just go to sleep or lie down for a while and cuddle yourself towards comfort.
Some of how you experience the world these days was laid down in those days, so just take a moment and draw your own conclusions.
And drawing conclusions is what everyone does, from day one. You must do it in order to conserve energy. You must do it in order to move ahead. You must do it in order to survive in the world, to remain in the tribe. more or less until the day comes you feel fit to move out on your own. But you are never wholly on your own, because your tribe comes with you, even when you make a new tribe in your own time. So, remember this, you are carrying the traditions, beliefs and conclusions of your original tribe and the tribes who came before them. So you are never alone, never new or wholly original, never only yourself. This is good news and also can be difficult to bear. So you may have noted.
When the tribe you started with in this lifetime responded to you as a child (and yes as a baby and yes in the womb and possibly in how they thought of you before you even took root and began to form materially), you drew some conclusions from that. And you formed - everyone forms - hypotheses, and tested them, and found some things out. And then you had Beliefs. And Beliefs are what your Life Map is made of, and what opens the way ahead.
When your beliefs do not match reality, you might get frustrated. When your needs are not met, you may get overwhelmed. But how you respond to frustration and overwhelm are what continue to reinforce both your conclusions and your beliefs, which, we probably don't need to point out, are what guide your actions. (For the purposes of this post, actions include thoughts and choices.)
When you are frustrated and overwhelmed you will not make the best choices for the actual circumstances of your actual, present-day life. When you need to live your life, and you are frustrated and/or overwhelmed (we hope you see how the two are interconnected. If not, please ask in comments below.), then we suggest you Stop. Take a moment or two. Allow some space to flow into the experience you are having; allow things to slow and form a kind of gap. In that space, or gap, you will find enough respite to understand what is called for in this time. Maybe you need a longer break. Maybe you need to rest. Maybe you need to cry, or work on something else, or go pee. Maybe food is required, or friendship, or solitude or a walk. All the possibilities are inherent in that gap.
From the respite of the gap - please believe us, a gap is enough space for you to reconnect with your own deep inner wisdom, truly it is - from this respite you can make choices that you cannot make if too frustrated or overwhelmed. Think of it as the point at which you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and say OK, try again. (As you did when learning to walk, lo these many years ago, for most of you.) Or you say OK, I'm going to do something else now. Or you say hm, time for a bath and a book before bed.
It is quite normal, even after all these years on Earth, to have the same basic needs as when you first got here. The tricky bit is not to fool yourself that you don't need those things, that respite, that love. The tricky bit is to give yourself what you need. Because now you have the power and the capacity to hear yourself and evaluate the scene and take action. Even if - especially if - that action happens to be a nap.
Much Love,
BlueStar
PS For those who feel lost when trying to find their way, we want to remind you there was a time when you did not read. When not only could you not read, but you didn't know of reading, as a ting. You had no comprehension, no notion of "read" and yet you went steadily, inexorably toward it, and it became a part of you and your world at some time. You may not know where you are heading, but you will get there. And it will open up even more worlds. We promise.
PPS For those of you who are thinking now of illiteracy rates, we encourage you to do something about that if you can.
Today's topic is frustration and overwhelm, something you all have experienced from time to time. Think about being a very, very small child. Think about trying to figure out this 3-D world into which you have fallen. Think about all there is to learn and understand, and that when you ask for directions, no one understands what you said. Think about when you make your needs known, very few people get it. Think about all that is going on around you, that sometimes does and sometimes doesn't include you, and think about how hard it is to find your place in it all.
Now you have some idea of what we are discussing here today. Did reading that take you back? Did you imagine or remember the sensations of being new to the planet and trying to figure it out, without really very much luck for the first few YEARS?
You didn't give up. If you had you wouldn't be here now. You didn't surrender and say oh, let them just have their way. No, you did not. Even if some part of you did. More on that in a minute. You didn't quit trying to make your way in the world, even if you couldn't see clearly what that meant or what it would take, where you were going or how to get there. You kept on working at it. Sometimes you wept, sometimes you grew enraged, sometimes you had to just go to sleep or lie down for a while and cuddle yourself towards comfort.
Some of how you experience the world these days was laid down in those days, so just take a moment and draw your own conclusions.
And drawing conclusions is what everyone does, from day one. You must do it in order to conserve energy. You must do it in order to move ahead. You must do it in order to survive in the world, to remain in the tribe. more or less until the day comes you feel fit to move out on your own. But you are never wholly on your own, because your tribe comes with you, even when you make a new tribe in your own time. So, remember this, you are carrying the traditions, beliefs and conclusions of your original tribe and the tribes who came before them. So you are never alone, never new or wholly original, never only yourself. This is good news and also can be difficult to bear. So you may have noted.
When the tribe you started with in this lifetime responded to you as a child (and yes as a baby and yes in the womb and possibly in how they thought of you before you even took root and began to form materially), you drew some conclusions from that. And you formed - everyone forms - hypotheses, and tested them, and found some things out. And then you had Beliefs. And Beliefs are what your Life Map is made of, and what opens the way ahead.
When your beliefs do not match reality, you might get frustrated. When your needs are not met, you may get overwhelmed. But how you respond to frustration and overwhelm are what continue to reinforce both your conclusions and your beliefs, which, we probably don't need to point out, are what guide your actions. (For the purposes of this post, actions include thoughts and choices.)
When you are frustrated and overwhelmed you will not make the best choices for the actual circumstances of your actual, present-day life. When you need to live your life, and you are frustrated and/or overwhelmed (we hope you see how the two are interconnected. If not, please ask in comments below.), then we suggest you Stop. Take a moment or two. Allow some space to flow into the experience you are having; allow things to slow and form a kind of gap. In that space, or gap, you will find enough respite to understand what is called for in this time. Maybe you need a longer break. Maybe you need to rest. Maybe you need to cry, or work on something else, or go pee. Maybe food is required, or friendship, or solitude or a walk. All the possibilities are inherent in that gap.
From the respite of the gap - please believe us, a gap is enough space for you to reconnect with your own deep inner wisdom, truly it is - from this respite you can make choices that you cannot make if too frustrated or overwhelmed. Think of it as the point at which you can pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and say OK, try again. (As you did when learning to walk, lo these many years ago, for most of you.) Or you say OK, I'm going to do something else now. Or you say hm, time for a bath and a book before bed.
It is quite normal, even after all these years on Earth, to have the same basic needs as when you first got here. The tricky bit is not to fool yourself that you don't need those things, that respite, that love. The tricky bit is to give yourself what you need. Because now you have the power and the capacity to hear yourself and evaluate the scene and take action. Even if - especially if - that action happens to be a nap.
Much Love,
BlueStar
PS For those who feel lost when trying to find their way, we want to remind you there was a time when you did not read. When not only could you not read, but you didn't know of reading, as a ting. You had no comprehension, no notion of "read" and yet you went steadily, inexorably toward it, and it became a part of you and your world at some time. You may not know where you are heading, but you will get there. And it will open up even more worlds. We promise.
PPS For those of you who are thinking now of illiteracy rates, we encourage you to do something about that if you can.
Tuesday, March 24, 2015
Being Brave
Hello beloveds!
We want to write a bit about what it means to be brave. Some of you will think oh, I know, it means you are never afraid! Others will say no, it means you are afraid sometimes but you do it anyway! Those are two ideas about bravery that are currently in circulation, and some of each of them may or may not apply to you.
Today what we want to say about bravery is: this is what you are doing when you choose something different than you have always done before. If you are a person who tends to push on through, to get things done, and who likes to accomplish things, then it takes a lot of bravery to allow yourself to rest. To be fallow. To run dry and not know the next step. Some people come to this place through intention - I see I need to do something differently or I will burn out - but some people come through a slide and a crash and a burn. It can be difficult from this place to see the courage you exhibit, because you may feel you have no choice. You may think that whatever care you take of yourself, it brings no rewards. You may believe you are a failure, because doing things differently doesn't yet feel any different, and doing things the same old way brings pain. You may feel trapped, and sad, and worthless.
It brings discomfort when you do things differently. Bravery is very often an uncomfortable place to be. But if you look into that discomfort, you will see it is just the discomfort of old beliefs being scrubbed away. Although they cling tenaciously, you can say to them thank you, you have done your work here, see you later, goodbye!
It is a little bit like washing a grater or a sieve after it was left to dry with material like cheese or something on it. You can't just scrub it off. It needs soaking first, to loosen up the relationship between the food and the surface onto which it has fused. If you attack it, you will skin your knuckles and also exert a lot of effort for not much return, which will only add to your feelings of futility and irritation. But if you let it soak a while, and go do something relaxing yourself, when you come back it will loosen of its own accord and let itself be rinsed off and away.
Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is to take a nice hot bath.
We want to write a bit about what it means to be brave. Some of you will think oh, I know, it means you are never afraid! Others will say no, it means you are afraid sometimes but you do it anyway! Those are two ideas about bravery that are currently in circulation, and some of each of them may or may not apply to you.
Today what we want to say about bravery is: this is what you are doing when you choose something different than you have always done before. If you are a person who tends to push on through, to get things done, and who likes to accomplish things, then it takes a lot of bravery to allow yourself to rest. To be fallow. To run dry and not know the next step. Some people come to this place through intention - I see I need to do something differently or I will burn out - but some people come through a slide and a crash and a burn. It can be difficult from this place to see the courage you exhibit, because you may feel you have no choice. You may think that whatever care you take of yourself, it brings no rewards. You may believe you are a failure, because doing things differently doesn't yet feel any different, and doing things the same old way brings pain. You may feel trapped, and sad, and worthless.
It brings discomfort when you do things differently. Bravery is very often an uncomfortable place to be. But if you look into that discomfort, you will see it is just the discomfort of old beliefs being scrubbed away. Although they cling tenaciously, you can say to them thank you, you have done your work here, see you later, goodbye!
It is a little bit like washing a grater or a sieve after it was left to dry with material like cheese or something on it. You can't just scrub it off. It needs soaking first, to loosen up the relationship between the food and the surface onto which it has fused. If you attack it, you will skin your knuckles and also exert a lot of effort for not much return, which will only add to your feelings of futility and irritation. But if you let it soak a while, and go do something relaxing yourself, when you come back it will loosen of its own accord and let itself be rinsed off and away.
Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is to take a nice hot bath.
Saturday, March 14, 2015
Beginnings
Where did you come from?
In the beginning, there was light. And vibration. And love.
How did you start out?
Were you more, or less, than a twinkle in your mother's eye?
Sometimes in a new endeavour, whether writing a blog or coming into a body for a new earth-based life, it is helpful to recognize that everything is continuum. Nothing really starts, and nothing ever ends. Therefore, the option of correcting your mistakes is ever open to you. Therefore, have no fear.
When you begin something, know that it was begun before you, and will carry on after you are done. (In this way, be careful what you post on those internets, you know?) You did not start at the moment of physical conception, and getting here was also not all your idea. Other people joined in to make you happen, but you had a hand in it as well. Multiple factions, coming together in a certain way in a certain time and place (also in a place beyond time and space, but that's another topic) created the you that you think of as yourself.
You had this big idea, to come here and do this. Maybe when you arrived it was not as you'd thought. Maybe when you got here you suddenly got scared. Or you recognized how helpless and vulnerable having a body is. Or you realized you'd bitten off too much to chew. Plus you had no teeth. But you carried on, and here you are!
We wish to reassure. You got this far: so far, so good. Things have not gone according to plan, but that is neither here nor there, because you just keep going. Sometimes you haven't done well. You have cheated yourself of an experience you needed, or you shortcut around it, or you stayed too long in one place. But in general, overall, things keep unfolding and you keep on going and it just works out.
When you begin something, remember it has its roots in long ago, so far back you can't see it. These are sometimes the seeds of the Pharaohs, sprouting after many thousand years in the dark. Sometimes they are your own imagination gone wild, having been fertilized by a chance encounter or a determined exploration on your own. Sometimes you just get a notion. There is the possibility of planning and that plans can go awry. You need to plan so the Universe knows where to follow you, but if things go wrong it is not such a bad thing after all. There is no misstep in your past that should be erased. Everything brought you to here. Now. This.
This moment is the culmination of all that has gone before: that successful presentation, that one more broken glass. None of it resented or rejected now; all of it in gracious acceptance and embrace. Give yourself the kudos for continuing on, neither swayed by glory nor fear, next steps taken, both tiny and major leaps. Appreciate the accumulations of experience, even as you prune and tidy and decompose.
You do get to shape the future, in a way, but remember it is based on the past, and everything leads to the next moment, ripe with infinite possibility, buoyed by the last thought you had.
In the beginning, there was light. And vibration. And love.
How did you start out?
Were you more, or less, than a twinkle in your mother's eye?
Sometimes in a new endeavour, whether writing a blog or coming into a body for a new earth-based life, it is helpful to recognize that everything is continuum. Nothing really starts, and nothing ever ends. Therefore, the option of correcting your mistakes is ever open to you. Therefore, have no fear.
When you begin something, know that it was begun before you, and will carry on after you are done. (In this way, be careful what you post on those internets, you know?) You did not start at the moment of physical conception, and getting here was also not all your idea. Other people joined in to make you happen, but you had a hand in it as well. Multiple factions, coming together in a certain way in a certain time and place (also in a place beyond time and space, but that's another topic) created the you that you think of as yourself.
You had this big idea, to come here and do this. Maybe when you arrived it was not as you'd thought. Maybe when you got here you suddenly got scared. Or you recognized how helpless and vulnerable having a body is. Or you realized you'd bitten off too much to chew. Plus you had no teeth. But you carried on, and here you are!
We wish to reassure. You got this far: so far, so good. Things have not gone according to plan, but that is neither here nor there, because you just keep going. Sometimes you haven't done well. You have cheated yourself of an experience you needed, or you shortcut around it, or you stayed too long in one place. But in general, overall, things keep unfolding and you keep on going and it just works out.
When you begin something, remember it has its roots in long ago, so far back you can't see it. These are sometimes the seeds of the Pharaohs, sprouting after many thousand years in the dark. Sometimes they are your own imagination gone wild, having been fertilized by a chance encounter or a determined exploration on your own. Sometimes you just get a notion. There is the possibility of planning and that plans can go awry. You need to plan so the Universe knows where to follow you, but if things go wrong it is not such a bad thing after all. There is no misstep in your past that should be erased. Everything brought you to here. Now. This.
This moment is the culmination of all that has gone before: that successful presentation, that one more broken glass. None of it resented or rejected now; all of it in gracious acceptance and embrace. Give yourself the kudos for continuing on, neither swayed by glory nor fear, next steps taken, both tiny and major leaps. Appreciate the accumulations of experience, even as you prune and tidy and decompose.
You do get to shape the future, in a way, but remember it is based on the past, and everything leads to the next moment, ripe with infinite possibility, buoyed by the last thought you had.
Thursday, March 5, 2015
Welcome!
In the beginning, there was life...
Dear Ones,
We welcome you to this very page upon which place thine eyes do dwell.
OK we are being silly.
What we truly want to say is this: Let The Adventures Begin! We say this to Ker, our beloved channel for our words, and we say this to you, gentle reader (OK silly again!) because we think if you are reading this then you are ready for an Adventure of sorts yourself.
Please know that we welcome questions to be answered only in this format. If you wish a personal reading using a voice and body, on the phone or face to face, please contact Ker easily and thy will be done. (excuse again the silliness)
OK, so this is the first post and we are so excited to get this show on the road, as it were. Let the merriment be joined!!!
With love and fondness,
Your hosts BlueStar and the Counsel of Light
Dear Ones,
We welcome you to this very page upon which place thine eyes do dwell.
OK we are being silly.
What we truly want to say is this: Let The Adventures Begin! We say this to Ker, our beloved channel for our words, and we say this to you, gentle reader (OK silly again!) because we think if you are reading this then you are ready for an Adventure of sorts yourself.
Please know that we welcome questions to be answered only in this format. If you wish a personal reading using a voice and body, on the phone or face to face, please contact Ker easily and thy will be done. (excuse again the silliness)
OK, so this is the first post and we are so excited to get this show on the road, as it were. Let the merriment be joined!!!
With love and fondness,
Your hosts BlueStar and the Counsel of Light
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